Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions
By Anita L. Coles
Early
in my years I was in the college of
civil engineer. When I first started the course I did quite well I had a GPA of
3.8. However, when I started my research class I begun to do poorly.
In the beginning I thought it was all my fault that I was doing to poorly. At
the time I was taking care of my sick dad, raising two small children alone,
and holding down a full time job. So I thought too much on my plate
I
met with the professor of my research class to ask him what could I do to help
get my GPA back up. The professor informed me that he did not think that I
could do anything because some people from certain racial background have a
harder time understanding certain academics than other races. He went on to say
that I should not worry and if I receive a “D” as my final grade (we were not
even midway with this course) and a “D” is a passing grade this microaggression
was in the form of Microassult and microinsult (Sue 2011) . On that note, I
wrote a letter to the college Dean of Electrical Engineering I informed the
Dean that I believe that his department housed a few teachers that were
prejudices
The
college/Dean’s replied to by stating that the school researched and found that other
people of color were attending the College, and had no complains and therefore
believed the college had not violated any laws.
I dropped out of college for two years. Letter I went back to the same
school different program and graduated with a 3.6 GPA, and cumulatively a 4.0.
While
I was attending class, I ran into my old EE (Electrical Engineer) advisor. He
ask me why I dropped out of the EE department I told him if I tell you, you
would not believe me, than he said to me “was it because some of the teachers
were prejudice? My mouth flew open; than he told me his wife attended the same
college, and was treated the say way. He also said that one of the teachers
made a racist remark about his wife (at the time the teacher who made the
racist remark was not aware this women was
my advisor’s wife (my advisor was White his wife Black). This situation took place some twenty odd
years ago.
However,
a few days ago my daughter and I were having lunch at a restaurant were my daughter
also work part-time as a server. One of their regular customers (a middle age
Hispanic man) saw her sitting and jokingly asks her why she is not working. She
told him that she was working a later shift because she had finals early that
morning. He asks her what she was studying … she told him Electrical
Engineering; he replied “Oh you must be attending the Branch,” she said to him, “although there is
nothing at all wrong with attending the branch,
I am not and have not attended the branch.” The hidden message is the
only way you could obtain an EE degree is to attend a lesser demanding
college/University (Sue, 2011) (Gorki, 2008, p. 2). Then he asks her if she
thought that she might have a hard time getting hired anywhere; hidden message,
you are going to have a hard time getting a job because you are women and a
Black women at that (Sue, 2011). Her
replied to him was that she has already accepted a job offer in Texas and should
begin working right after graduation. The man just looked sheepish and replied “oh.” In my opinion times have not changed much.
There is still so much work to be done.
These two examples represented two types of prejudices, one against a
person of color (possible gender as well); and the other color and gender.
In
order to became more aware of and to work on eliminating actions such a
microaggression we as teachers/educators, and parents need to encourage our
young children to do what my daughter is doing: seek and continue to seek
higher education; if in order to pursue a dream and or a goal dare to move outside their comfort zone; Lastly but
certainly not least, respectfully defend their cultural inheritances(Seifert,
2007, p.7)
References
Gorski, P. (2008). The myth of the
"culture of poverty." Educational
leadership, 65(7), 32--36. Academic Search Complete database.
Laureate Education Inc. (2011). (Derald
Wing Sue, PhD).
Microaggressions in everyday
life.
Seifert, T. (2007). Understanding
Christian privilege: Managing the
tensions of spiritual plurality. About Campus, 12(2), 10—17
Academic Search Complete database.
Many people feel that racism and prejudices don't exist but your post goes to show that microaggressions and steretoyping is still going on like it was twenty years ago. I am happy you stood up for youself and have shown your daughter how to do the same.
ReplyDeleteHi Anita,
ReplyDeleteI had to reply to your comment that you left on my blog. Thank you so much for the nice message. I understand how you felt completely! I was the only female with 77 males in calculus based physics and no one would be my lab partner or even talk to me for that matter. I finished with the highest average in the class and threw off the scale for the ones that were failing. I was happy to have done so well but was very lonely. The same was true for physical chemistry and when I took organic chemistry, I actually went to the professor to ask for help and he told me that because I worked full time that I would never make it through the program and I should just drop out, a male in my class went to him the same day, also a full time worker and he set up tutoring for him around his work schedule. I was so sad but I did finish the program working 40+ hours a week. I started my first job at an environmental lab right out of school at $10 and hour, a male was hired a week after me, less of a degree and was paid $11 an hour. I questioned it but it was not my business what others made. The funny part about it was that particular male applied at Woods Hole Oceanographic where I finally worked and could not even get an interview. Thankfully there are people who don't judge you based on gender or appearance. I often wonder if males maybe are a little intimidated by the fact that a female can be as smart, work as hard as well as be mommy. I just hope that these behaviors will decrease over time and my children will not feel the rejection and the isolation that I did going into such a male dominated field. You must be so proud of your daughter, I know I am! Thank you again for the nice comments and sharing your story!
Anita,
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry and it makes me really sad that blatant act of racism are still going on in this country. My friend in Columbus, Ohio had her son placed in special education before they even did any testing just because he was black. Of course she did not stand for that for one minute-----Phillip went on to graduate in the top 10% of his class!!! I guess all we can do is call it out and not stand for it when it happens. Thanks again for sharing your personal experiences.
Leslie Porter